Imagine who you would be if there was no one to please.
What if you didn’t have to work so hard to prove your worth and instead turned inward and took loving care of yourself?
At the point in my life when I should have been brimming with energy and youthfulness, I instead felt helpless, empty and tired.
I was a hardworking good girl. I tried to do everything right.
I lived a life that many would consider perfect.
But I didn’t know who I was because I had been so focused externally on seeking other’s approval and proving my worth through my accomplishments. It disconnected me from my truth and led to me living a life I didn’t recognise.
In my late twenties, I broke down under the weight of many challenges and embarked on a path of personal transformation.
At that time, I didn’t know that I had no control over what other people thought of me. I didn’t know that their opinion was their own decision and that I couldn’t dictate how they felt about me or my choices. When I discovered these things, I began to set boundaries and let go of my need to please.
I allowed myself to:
Discover that perfection was unattainable.
Stop being proud of overworking and neglecting my needs.
Learn to separate my own expectations from the standards set for me by others.
Stop making important decisions based on what others would think of me.
Start to say “no” instead of “of course!”.
Stop making myself small to make others feel better and care more about them than I did about myself.
In years of deep self-research and guiding hundreds of clients through change as a psychotherapist
I’ve discovered that lasting change is not possible until we put ourselves first.
I decided to listen to my inner whispers, stand up for myself and believe in myself.
I went from being a helpless girl who was watching her life happening from the sidelines, to a woman who takes radical responsibility for herself and her decisions. I took my life into my own hands. That I didn’t need to prove my worth. That I was good enough as I was. That I had the right to live my life according to my own standards.
I want to help you do the same.
Creating a sacred space was pivotal in my journey.
A sacred space is a place we call our own. It is our territory where we celebrate ourselves.
The central part of my safe haven is an altar, decorated with angels, nurturing affirmations, books, candles and flowers. In it I spend precious time with myself: sipping my favorite tea, writing a journal, meditating, drawing, reading inspiring books, listening to calming music… Or I just observe the bubbling of life inside me and enjoy the present moment.
Moreover, this space is our family corner, where we talk about pleasant and less pleasant topics. In it, we practice the courage to show our vulnerability, thereby deepening mutual trust, respect and loving connection.
The gifts of sacred space
My safe space supported me so that I could listen to myself and slowly discover who I was if I didn’t meet the expectations of others and constantly try to prove my worth through hard work.
It allowed me to start letting go of unhealthy behaviors, take better care of myself, and cultivate self-love.
I go to my safe haven every day to this day. With its beauty and calmness, it reminds me again and again that it is important to take time and loving care of myself.
My inner whispers eventually guided me to let go of my psychotherapy work and embark on a sabbatical, which I did for two years.
This two-year quest enabled me to focus only on what I love and what brings me joy: meditating, painting angels, walking in nature, spending time with my dog Shanti, being with friends and family, and having enlightening conversations.
During this time, living fully present in the moment and feeling harmony within, I created a space for inspiration. I was able to revise once again who I have become, who I am at this time of my life and discover who I am guided to be in the next chapter of my life.
Slowly but surely, the path started unfolding. It led me to live even more fully. To be all that I have become. And joyfully create, play and have fun in all that I do.
Spending precious time with myself in the silence of my sacred space gave me an unexpected gift.
I began to feel an unstoppable creative energy that led me to make art and write nurturing affirmations.
I am a self-taught creator and it was never my intention to make my art known to a wider audience. I create simply because I enjoy it immensely. Due to people’s enthusiastic responses, I realized over time that they are not only created for me.
Now is the time for them to fly out into the world and find the people they are meant for!
I want them to find a place in your heart, on your altar in the sacred space of your home, and wherever you need a gentle reminder that you are important, worthy and precious just the way you are.
The Things I Value
Self-Love
Self-love is essential. It is the answer to every life question, and the solution to every life challenge.
The way we heal ourselves is through self-love. When we love ourselves, we treat ourselves with respect and kindness. We no longer stay in situations that don’t serve us or reflect love back to us. That’s why we need to learn how to love ourselves more, and ensure our decisions reflect that.
Self-care
Your self-care routine is a direct indicator of how much you love yourself.
With self-care, we prioritise ourselves and our needs, which enables us to fill our cup and continue to pour from it to enrich the lives of others. It is only when we commit to ongoing self-care that we can form authentic, loving relationships, and give from a place of abundance and fulfilment.
Self-realisation
We are here to grow and expand into more of who we are.
To become everything that we are capable of becoming. To live to our highest potential. When we are self-realised, we love ourselves unconditionally and fully accept ourselves as we are. We are able to enjoy ourselves and our lives without guilt. We maintain a sense of gratitude for all of life’s wonders.
Consciousness
We create our own reality, from energy into form.
Consciously connecting with our inner selves enables us to understand our own thoughts, feelings, needs and desires, and make empowered decisions about our experiences in this life. This enables us to joyfully create the life we want to lead.
Abundance
We are worthy of abundance in all forms.
We are abundant when we have unlimited access to everything we need to fully express all that we are. We thrive when are able to afford all the things and experiences we desire in order to live our most authentic lives.
Celebration
When we celebrate ourselves and our precious lives, we focus our energy on the things that support us through every step of life’s journey.
By intentionally valuing these things, we open ourselves up to receive more of them. Because what we appreciate, appreciates.
Fun Facts About Me
I meditate at least 2 hours per day.
Meditation is my doorway to lucid dreaming, mystical experiences and miraculous manifestations.
I have a dog called Shanti.
I have more photos of her than my beloved humans!
I have a small organic garden.
Vegetables grow there in abundance. I believe that the credit for this is owed to my garden fairies. 😉
I’m highly sensitive and introverted.
I deeply feel the thoughts, emotions and energy of others and enjoy solitude, preferring to express myself in writing.
I don’t perceive the world like most people do.
I used to think it was because something was wrong with me – but now, I consider myself fairly normal because I am surrounded by people who are as weird as I am.
I love to cook delicious meals for my family and friends.
It’s my way of giving thanks to them for enriching my life.
Hug yourself with the soft wings of my angels,
open your heart for love and allow yourself to enjoy this exciting adventure called life.
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